The S.T.U.C.K. Method

Five Simple Steps to Emotional Well-Being



Not me.

My youngest son.

Which, by the way, is an example of the impetus for my idea of writing a children’s book in the theme of “stuck on the muck”.

Which of course, never happened.

But, I digress.

You see, screaming about not having enough cornflakes has somehow become a routine in our household.

My 3 1/2 year old wakes up at 6 am.

And he’s starving.

I mean starving!

He wants cornflakes.

I pour him a bowl.

But, it’s not enough.

Of course it’s not enough!

What in G-d’s name was I thinking for pouring him such a small amount of cereal???

But, of course, it is enough.

It always is.

You see, my husband and I have learned from experience that our kids never (ok, never is a strong word… 99% of the time they never) finish their cereal.

So, we pour it for them.

Giving them what we think they will eat.

And, if they want more, we gladly give them more.

(Not a very democratic approach, I know, but then again, that’s not our parenting style.)

So, I pour the cereal in the bowl for my youngest son.


But, he doesn’t like this idea.

Now, you may wisely say to yourself, “Shira, why don’t you use a smaller bowl?  Then, it would appear that he has more, and then he wouldn’t make an issue of this.”

But, no.

He wants the blue bamboo bowl.

And if he doesn’t eat out of that bowl, he cries.

OK, yes, this kid is spoiled.

What do you want?

He’s the youngest of four.

So, what does he do?

Well, today, he decided to pour half of it on the floor.

Image1Then, he screamed.

For like an hour.

Ok, not an hour.

Maybe 3 minutes.

But, enough time to wake up the whole kibbutz.

And all my efforts of trying to just get him to eat the cereal that was in his bowl (because neither my husband nor I were certainly going to cave in on this one), didn’t really help.

I took the video out about two minutes into this saga.

He didn’t like this one bit.

Image5Yet, his brothers did.

They got a kick out of it.

But, you know what?

It kind of helped.

Because slowly he started to accept the fact that he wasn’t getting any more until he first finished what he had.

He finally heard me.

Then, he begrudgingly began to eat his cereal.

Image4And, miraculously cleaned it up without any assistance by me.

He got unstuck!

So, maybe the book idea wasn’t such a great idea after all.

Maybe instead I should just go house to house and video children’s tantrums in action, thereby helping to quell their unmanageable behavior and alleviate the frustration of struggling parents.

Oh, now wouldn’t that be fun!


Author: Shira Taylor Gura

Well-Being Coach, Podcast Host, Author of the award winning book, Getting unSTUCK: 5 Simple Steps to Emotional Well-Being.

6 thoughts on “STUCK on I WANT MORE CORNFLAKES!!!

  1. Write that book! Great idea.

  2. That was fun Shira

  3. Finally, something “mindful” comes out of our obsession with filming our kids! 😉

  4. Giggle, giggle…Did he ask for more???….I cant wait to read your book!… I miss you all so much!

  5. love it! this episode itself would make a great childrens book!!

  6. I want more too…. of your writing! Write the book! (insert screaming here… just kidding). 🙂

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