The S.T.U.C.K. Method

Five Simple Steps to Emotional Well-Being



I’m stuck on sugar.


I hate when this happens.

Which is usually in the winter.

When I find myself, seeking out sugar.  


And while I may not seek out sugary “junk”, I am seeking cakes and cookies.  

Or even chocolate, even though I’m not such a big fan of it.


Now, while this blog is for the purpose of processing emotional attachments (and being addicted to sugar can be argued a biological addiction), I decided nevertheless to treat being “stuck on sugar” like any other emotional attachment and see where it would take me.

Because, in a way, I guess I felt like I needed to “feed” my body on sugar because it was making me feel good, just like the way I (and all of us) feel like we need to “feed” ourselves on emotional attachments (stuck on “x”) because in each particular situation, we feel like they make us feel good or right.



2 weeks ago tomorrow, I….

“S” – STOPPED and PAUSED before doing anything else.  

And “T” – Told myself how I was feeling.



Carrying too many extra pounds around the waistline.


Not happy with my figure.

Then, I looked to see what may be “U” – underneath it all.  In other words, how is it that I got myself into this place?

The cold weather?

Work instability?

Not getting out of the house enough?


4 children?

That have lots and lots of energy?

And make lots of lots of noise?

Alllllllllllllll the time?

And, perhaps I comforted myself from the stresses of life with sugar??

Could be.

Who knows.

Then I got to “C” – to consider another perspective, to choose another reality, to consciously behave differently,

and realized that I don’t have to be addicted to sugar.

I could choose to eat foods that don’t contain sugar.

Just like when I’m stuck on anything else and I choose to behave differently.

And, I certainly can eat in a more mindful manner, for sure.

So, what did I do?

Went on a cleanse.

To detoxify my body of sugar.

(Which I believe, consider me a freak or an extremist, is a poison to our bodies in any event.)


I started by eliminating all sugars (including all fruit temporarily) from my diet.

And simultaneously, I eliminated anything made with wheat: bread, pasta, crackers, pretzels, cereals, etc. (because not only do they also contain sugar, I felt addicted to those, too… probably because, in the end, all of these foods turn to sugar in our bodies anyway).

*(By the way, most people who think I’m crazy when I tell them I’m doing a cleanse ask, “Then what DO you eat?”… Which seems funny to me… I just respond, “My usual diet, minus the sugar and wheat: salads, all other grains besides wheat (oats, rice, barley, spelt, rye), eggs, cheese, quinoa, all kinds of nuts, all kinds of seeds, and beans.  That’s PLENTY to eat off of and be satisfied from!”)

After the first day, I already felt effects.

More energy.

Less bloated.

Slimming down in the belly area.


More “regular” bowel movements.

Happier with my figure.


Almost two weeks later, I am witnessing that I’m no longer stuck on sugar.

Not only do I not need it, I’m not even seeking it out.

(Not that this detox is the final step, because it’s certainly not.)

The purpose of the cleanse was to have a jump start to get back to mindful eating: the practice of raising awareness while eating, listening to the body, and responding to its signals.

And, when I get to “K”, I remind myself that despite the fact that I fell off the path of mindful eating (again), it’s o”K” that I got stuck in the first place.

It’s just a part of living.

And learning.

And living again.



Stuck on Sharing YOUR Experiences!

The original intent of this blog was to apply the principles of mindfulness to my life’s emotionally challenging experiences and process them via writing.

I have to admit.  I never meant for this blog to benefit others (in a direct or indirect way).

But it has.

The blog has gained an audience of people who, I believe, found themselves identifying with my “stuck on…” experiences.

And, enjoy learning how I get through them.

In fact, over the past few months, many people have even shared with me their own personal “stuck on …” experiences and expressed how this blog encouraged or inspired them to get through them.

Today, a friend of mine shared her potentially emotionally challenging experience that she got through quite gracefully and proudly with only a moment of “stuck on…”.

I responded, “That would have been a great post!”

She agreed.

Which made me wonder: Why don’t I request the readers of my blog to share their stories with me?

And, in turn, I would post it for others to read, respond to, and benefit from.

Because in the end, it’s appearing to me that this is what this blog was meant to be after all:

A light for all to benefit from.

sharing experiences

So, please consider (friend from today and all others!), the next time you find yourself “stuck on something” and find yourself using mindfulness principles to get through it, consider sharing it with me ( so that I can share it with others.  (I will be sure to check in with you whether I have your permission to reference your name or if you wish to remain anonymous.)

Thank you!



This morning, I woke up with my next post in mind: “STUCK on NOT BEING PUBLICLY ACKNOWLEDGED” (when it seemed that everyone else was, and I deserved to have been!).

Yet, before I started to write, I checked my email.

And, received one from my mother who shared with me and my siblings the sad news of the loss of an old high school friend of mine.

The sister of my classmate.

The daughter of my parent’s good friends.

A wonderful person who battled cancer.

“Someone who was dealt a shitty hand, faced it with grace and humor, fought like a warrior, and refused to wallow even once in 11 years,” wrote a friend on her Facebook page this morning.

Someone who will be remembered for her “beaming positive energy,” wrote another.

An “enthusiastic” person.

An “incredibly special” person.

Taken away way, way too young.

And, suffered way, way too much.

But even now that she is resting in peace, the suffering doesn’t end.

Her two loving sisters and parents, her hometown community, her college friends, her colleagues…

Even her friends in Israel…

Are all suffering.

And will continue for quite a while.

And, here I am feeling shameful.


For this blog.


For the triviality of it.

For getting stuck on such ridiculous things….

While others in the world are really suffering.

I couldn’t get it out of my mind.

Maybe I should just terminate this blog, I thought to myself, and turn it into a personal journal instead and save people from reading about such mundane matters.

I just couldn’t get it out of my mind… how shameful I felt for sharing such frivolous matters with the world.

As if the world doesn’t have enough of its own problems.


While being stuck on all of this, I received another email.

From one of my blog followers:

Thanking me for my blog.

And telling me that he is incorporating the “S.T.U.C.K.” techniques into his life.

And even shared with me a recent encounter he had with a family member and how he was able to get “unstuck” because of what he’s learned from my blog.


The juxtaposition of these two events this morning seemed like an act of synchronicity for me.

So, I took a few moments and just sat.

And noticed the feeling of shameful.

And out of that came another perspective.

That it’s o”K” to share my experiences with others.

It’s even more than OK.  It’s helpful and appreciated.

Even during a time of someone else’s loss or hurt or pain or suffering, I can still blog to the world,

and share my everyday experiences about getting “stuck”…

with the hopes that it may make the world a better place.

Which is probably what Lindsey would have wanted me to do anyway.