My last post, intended to focus on awareness of my judgment of others during shared dining experiences, received interesting comments (mostly to my personal Facebook page) regarding differing cultural values.
One friend responded, “there is no right or wrong. Just different.”
Another friend claimed, “you can’t judge different cultures for having different rules of etiquette.”
A third friend attached a link to an article (which I found both fascinating and hysterical at the same time) delineating the idiosyncrasies of eating behaviors around the world.
And so, although it wasn’t my intention for the post to go in that direction, I started thinking about all of this… values, morals, cultural differences, etc.
And started wondering to myself, do I really not have the right to judge others?
Is there really no right or wrong?
Recently, I sat in a community committee meeting. About 1/2 hour before the meeting was supposed to end, one person got up to leave. She had let us know in the beginning of the meeting of her need to leave early. Immediately following this, two others also said they had to leave.
With no explanation.
They just said they also had to leave.
And, they did.
And, the meeting continued with two people left (including me).
Was this not wrong?
Can I not judge or inquire into this situation?
Or, how about this? In the past week, our Syrian “brothers” have mass murdered their own citizens.
Is this just different?
Can I not judge this behavior as wrong and bad?
Sure I can.
In both instances.
And I will.
The point isn’t necessarily that I can’t have feelings or emotions.
Or, that I can’t believe something is wrong.
Of course I can.
The question is whether or not I’m practicing to be aware of my thoughts.
And, notice them.
And, be with them.
Before I react (and do something I may regret later in life).
And, inevitably suffer from that.