The S.T.U.C.K. Method

Five Simple Steps to Emotional Well-Being


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teaching others A friend of mine wrote to me the other day with a relationship issue.

Someone in his family was acting in such an unmindful way that he wanted to just shout out and let that person know of his undesirable behavior (which, in this particular scenario, was answering for others) and how it was causing anxiety and angst for so many people around him.

My friend wanted to teach this person a thing or two about getting stuck on a branch.

Should he?

My response?

Do nothing.

I wrote to him that as much as so many of us that are on this path of awakening to awareness have a desire (desire! there’s that word again!) to teach mindfulness to others, that even that may be one example of getting stuck on a branch!! As difficult as it may be, I suggested to my friend to just notice his frustration and suffering… Just be aware of it.  Because as some point, it will dissipate.

As everything does, because of nothing is permanent.

The other thing that I should have suggested, but forgot to, was to have compassion for that human being in his life, who is probably acting in a more unconscious way that he realizes.

Cultivating compassion for others will invariably help us all to bring compassion to ourselves when we (and yes, this will happen!) will act in ways that are less than mindful to others.

The practice is for yourself and yourself alone.

It’s not about preaching it to others.

When and if that person will want to learn, believe me, he will find his way.


Author: Shira Taylor Gura

Well-Being Coach, Podcast Host, Author of the award winning book, Getting unSTUCK: 5 Simple Steps to Emotional Well-Being.

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